i totally understand being 18 and wanting your independence. but i also understand that having the perks of staying home, having most of your bills paid for you, poptarts and oreos anytime you want, and little things like that, are worth losing just a little of the independence of living on your own or in someone's bedroom.
the girl hit me up yesterday that she was moving out. she put it that she was going to start spending the night with people. wha? that's technically not moving out, that is mooching off people just so you can stay out all night if you want to. i try to be pretty liberal with her coming and going but she obviously wants total freedom. i want her to be responsible enough to get herself up and get to school on time. college isn't like high school. if you miss class, the loan people don't care. if you flunk out because you didn't get yourself up on time, the scholarship people don't care. you are one in a million and all they look at are grades. you still have to pay the money back regardless.
if she had the money, she could get her own place. i really don't mind her moving out when she's ready and has the resources. if she wants to be "grown up" then fine. i remember going through the same thing only the friends i was going to move out with did it without me because i was going to school and working instead of just working. so i totally understand where she is mentally.
sigh....i guess i had better get ready for the empty nest sooner than later...
Dear, dear, dear...now I see what you're going through. So young, she is, so many changes before her, and I think we can all remember feeling invincible at that age. Oh...keep us updated on this one. I feel for you both.
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